When my wife helped me understand that she fantasized about being spanked, tied up, ordered around, and more, I am sure my jaw dropped. The son of a feminist single mother, I had never considered treating my equal like that.
But, it sounded sexy. And who doesn’t like enthusiastic sex? So we tried it.
When I tied her up to the bed her response was cataclysmic. The power of her excitement was intoxicating.
Each additional thing we tried –spanking, submission, different toys, different roleplays—had similar payoffs.
And while we were already close, this brought us even closer. The intimacy and excitement I experienced with her was a powerful drug. The variety of things we tried (and keep trying!) kept things fresh and new.
We found that in our marriage of equals, well, sometimes that gets exhausting. Going to old-fashioned gender roles, with me in charge, is incredibly cathartic. Especially when we tie in (pun intended!) spicy sex that fulfills each of us on a deep, primitive level. The visual displays, tied with her desire to submit to my every desire, satisfies something deep within me. And conversely, her feeling of being desired, wanted, lusted for, both sexually and as a person, fulfills her in similarly quenching ways.
I started writing when we found that I could tell a story much better and more erotic and interesting that the erotica we were finding out there to read together. And we found that adult movies, while stimulating on one level, also did not adequately express the emotion and the psychology of what people desire and find compelling about this stuff, and why… which was really what we wanted, as well as stimulation.
So, I started writing stories, sharing them my wife and then with her approval online friends on erotic story boards, and soon had a friendly audience of eager readers.
It was through my friends’ encouragement that I’ve finally taken the time to compile my stories into eBooks and publish them online.
I also feel that I have learned things from other kind and interesting people that I want to share. Things that most people don’t know or haven’t put together yet. Things I’ve come across about spicy stuff, relationships, communication and keeping the passion burning in our relationships. I’d like to make this information more broadly available to all the people who might benefit from it, so I’ve started this website to go along with my books.
All of this is just a side project I do for fun and because I find the subject terribly interesting. I’ve gotten so much out of this stuff, and I feel it’s made such a difference in maintaining the vibrancy of my marriage, that I want to share it with you. I’m making a bit of money through book sales and maybe a few links to affiliate stores, but I’m not quitting my day job. The purpose of the site is to share interesting stuff with people like us, and I hope that comes through in the tone.