Our Crazy Sexual Desires
If my wife wanted me to put on a clown costume and honk a horn in bed… well, that ain’t workin’ for me. At all. Although I apologize if that’s your kink.
But, I’d do it for her.
Honestly, what gives me the biggest thrill is her excitement. If something circus-related got her steamy and then acting something out pushed her into the explosion of a monumental orgasm… well, crap. Okay. I’ll do it.
That’s one of the secrets of kink.
We don’t always know why things turn us on, or what turns our partner on… but if it does, and fulfilling a person’s fantasy in the bedroom makes them blissfully happy and no one is getting hurt… then why the hell wouldn’t you?
The payoff is that you make your partner happy, which should make you happy. It brings you closer. There are those inscrutable brain chemicals that get released when we finally satisfy an appetite that we’ve had, especially one that doesn’t get fed often.
Those Crazy Sexual Desires Actually Aren’t So Crazy
Maybe what turns you on is being given permission to forget your normal roles and responsibilities, and giving up control.
Or, maybe the opposite, getting the chance to be the powerful person seeing to one’s own desires and hungers without thinking about everyone else for a change.
Maybe it’s embracing and rejoicing in that which you fear most in a safe, roleplay session.
Maybe it’s the combination of pain and pleasure, which get mixed up together and confused in the brain, providing a greater climax.
It could be taking on the attributes of another gender or role and having the freedom to embrace something that seems forbidden for family, cultural or values reasons, but which you find gives you a sexual charge.
Whatever it is that turns you on… it’s okay, really. As long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else and doesn’t control your life.
In the next post, we talk about specific things you and your partner might like to explore in your sex lives. We’re gettin’ to the really good stuff now!
Read the next post in the Spicing Things Up Series: Explore Kink: Ten Spicy Sex Life Improvers for Couples!