My gal and I just went to the nude beach!
She’s a good sport, but definitely had some BIGTIME nervousness about it.
Not because she’s a prude. She’s comfortable with nudity.
Not because she’s afraid of people looking at her. For one thing she doesn’t think anyone would be interested, for another, because we wound up pretty much sitting in the gay section.
Basically, she just doesn’t feel good about how she looks, and it makes her feel bad.
This, in turn, makes me sad. I think she looks beautiful, and sexy, and I had hoped she’d find the experience empowering and fun.
The good news is that she did enjoy it, after she got over the nervousness of doing something new. And the weather turned out great. She even admitted she had a nice day.
But she also said it didn’t do anything for her.
For me, I just enjoyed the exhilaration of being naked. It’s so much fun. And I like people watching, and to be honest, would also like to make some open-minded friends, even though we aren’t swingers and never will be.
As we talked about it, the core issue I discerned is that she just doesn’t feel good about how she looks. And never has. And for that reason alone, she can’t enjoy the nude beach experience like I do.
So, what to do?
How do I help my wife get comfortable with her body?
I found a great blog post that I think had some good advice if you find yourself in a similar situation: Tell her she’s beautiful, tell her how her being naked is something you desire and enjoy, give her time to prepare, focus on her and not her girly parts, watch your words and don’t talk about other women. Sound advice. Not a quick fix, but good stuff.