Let’s say that your partner has agreed to up their game and try new things. And you might have an idea of things that you want to do right away.
However, those things may be way too much for your spouse first thing. Likewise, there might be some things your spouse might be open to, that you’re not ready for.
What to do?
Thanks to the Internet, the answer is simple, and accessible.
Sit down one night, and go through a sexual checklist.
There are lots of them out there. Below, I’ve provided links to three. The first is a lot less likely to freak your spouse out if they’re a bit sheltered. The second checklist gets into more adventurous stuff. And the last checklist is a complete and detailed lists of activities you may never have heard of. You might have to Google some of the terms. I did.
But the idea is to go through the list together, and to see which items you each might want to try… and even better, find a few that you’re both enthusiastic about trying. That is a great place to start.
Intermediate Spicy Sex Checklist
Whoa! Crazy Kinky Spicy Sex Checklist
You can look through these, and copy and paste just the sections you want to review with your partner. And you can even tell them there’s more for another time.
And of course, there are plenty of books out there on all kinds of sexual topics, and you can order them online so you don’t have to be embarrassed at the bookstore checkout line. The disadvantage is that shoving a book at your partner with a request that they read it has a low probability of them actually reading. In my opinion, you’re better off with a finite task you do together.
Plus… if you do it right, it should be fun! It will certainly be educational. I will always remember going through a similar list with my wife a decade or so back. I think my jaw dropped. “You want to do that?? Uh… okay!!! I’ll do it!”
Read the next post in the Keeping the Spark Alive Series: Discussing Your Sexual Desires with your Partner, Part 3: Other Ideas for Discussing The Sensitive Topic of Spicy Sex
Interested in introducing your partner to the idea of bringing bondage to the bedroom? Check out my spicy story of a couple figuring it out together, The Night He ‘Got’ It: https://www.amazon.com/Night-He-Got-Bedroom-Secrets-ebook/dp/B01HUGO3G8/.